Tuesday, January 19, 2010
When a Mother Chooses to Give Away a Newborn
When a Mother Chooses to Give Away a Newborn Just so everyone understands this is not a man bashing site, this is a blog where we can discuss what to do with teh parents who abandon thier children , chase them or let them free?
Tuesday, January 12, 2010
Hey A$$HOLE Pay your Child Support!
I have had it with county and state laws that are slow in process to rectify the issues of Dads who don't pay child support!
For instance, I know a parent who only chooses to work 4 months out of the year as a paid offshore oil rigger, the rest of the year he loafs off of his mother and gets paid cash. Her oldest son has chosen to embarrass the family by ignoring his two beautiful children, failing to push for visitations and failing to fit into societies norms. As I run into individuals, other families who have divorced, I have very rarely in my community, witnessed fathers who abandon their children so blatantly, it seems to be a rare gen flaw or something.
If we all believe that the actions of a parent who doesn't pay child support and doesn't excersize his right to parent his children is a clear demonstration of an A$$HOLE and just plain selfish, then YOU SHOULD RESOND HERE!
But I ask you how does the Asshole Parent feel? What could motivate this person to change all of the wrongs? At what point does a person stop to think that "HEY! I COULD Start calling my kids regularly, I could send them a notes in the mail, I could visit them a few times , then a few times more , then regularly, HEY! I CAN make this work. MY ex has always been willing to help. WHY AM I AN A$$HOLE when I DONT have to be?"
I know another Parent who didn't pay his support, attempted to visit his his kids regularly but screamed and snarled under his breath mean words as he would enter the house, eventually his wife wouldn't meet him for exchanges and then she stopped accepting his payments by hand and demanded he go through the courts. Eventually after not paying support and he will tell you he was being an ASSHOLE was found out and , well if you ask the guy today he will tell you he still feels like muttering explosive comments to his ex, but he is glad he finally went to detention.
His state puts parents who don't pay child support into facilities where the men have to work to make up the difference, the serve time and rehabilitate back into the community slowly. He never paid attention to his kids before he went to the program, he just focused on the breakup. Each person in the family was counseled and it was a team effort. Now he is focused on the children , he is focused on being a great example and a great positive influenced on the family as a unit , because yes it is still a unit. They lead separate lives, they are not married but they work toward the common goal of the children. I'm glad their children have both a mother and father in their lives.
Something the first example of a parent can't fathom. I sometimes have to look into clear deep brown eyes with golden hues, and watch as they turn red and glossy ,as they turn away from watching a child climb onto their fathers back, when no card comes on their birthday, no Xmas present, no knock on the door, no ring of the phone , an email filled with anger and hate towards their mother yes, but no love for their existence.
LOCK EM UP?! I think Not! tell us why they just cant take the time!
For instance, I know a parent who only chooses to work 4 months out of the year as a paid offshore oil rigger, the rest of the year he loafs off of his mother and gets paid cash. Her oldest son has chosen to embarrass the family by ignoring his two beautiful children, failing to push for visitations and failing to fit into societies norms. As I run into individuals, other families who have divorced, I have very rarely in my community, witnessed fathers who abandon their children so blatantly, it seems to be a rare gen flaw or something.
If we all believe that the actions of a parent who doesn't pay child support and doesn't excersize his right to parent his children is a clear demonstration of an A$$HOLE and just plain selfish, then YOU SHOULD RESOND HERE!
But I ask you how does the Asshole Parent feel? What could motivate this person to change all of the wrongs? At what point does a person stop to think that "HEY! I COULD Start calling my kids regularly, I could send them a notes in the mail, I could visit them a few times , then a few times more , then regularly, HEY! I CAN make this work. MY ex has always been willing to help. WHY AM I AN A$$HOLE when I DONT have to be?"
I know another Parent who didn't pay his support, attempted to visit his his kids regularly but screamed and snarled under his breath mean words as he would enter the house, eventually his wife wouldn't meet him for exchanges and then she stopped accepting his payments by hand and demanded he go through the courts. Eventually after not paying support and he will tell you he was being an ASSHOLE was found out and , well if you ask the guy today he will tell you he still feels like muttering explosive comments to his ex, but he is glad he finally went to detention.
His state puts parents who don't pay child support into facilities where the men have to work to make up the difference, the serve time and rehabilitate back into the community slowly. He never paid attention to his kids before he went to the program, he just focused on the breakup. Each person in the family was counseled and it was a team effort. Now he is focused on the children , he is focused on being a great example and a great positive influenced on the family as a unit , because yes it is still a unit. They lead separate lives, they are not married but they work toward the common goal of the children. I'm glad their children have both a mother and father in their lives.
Something the first example of a parent can't fathom. I sometimes have to look into clear deep brown eyes with golden hues, and watch as they turn red and glossy ,as they turn away from watching a child climb onto their fathers back, when no card comes on their birthday, no Xmas present, no knock on the door, no ring of the phone , an email filled with anger and hate towards their mother yes, but no love for their existence.
LOCK EM UP?! I think Not! tell us why they just cant take the time!
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