Tuesday, February 23, 2010
Sunday, February 21, 2010
Your Input wanted!
Today I thought we would try out my new way of deciding the right thing to do.
The ex hasn't made an effort in 5 years to see his daughters. He has barley paid child support. He hasn't been able to maintain steady employment and has got married and divorced in the last two years. Not to mention that he has also created another child in another state which this new mother wants nothing to do with him.....
OK, enough about him. I have been caring for our daughters for the past five years; I have nurtured every tear about their fathers’ absence. I know how badly they want to have their father in their lives.
Over the past two weekends both daughters individually went out on ski trips and injured themselves. The oldest, 13, fractured her spine on two vertebrate. The youngest 11 got a concussion and retrograde amnesia, so naturally the ex wants to see his daughters. Right?
For some reason he expected to stay at my house.... I would foster this idea except the last time he was in our house he became violent and disruptive.
Plus he said he would stay two weeks and under my conditions and he stayed 8 weeks and disregarded every condition I set forth.
He has no job, (neither do I right now) He has no money, He has no real home. I spoke to him over the phone recently on a number of occasions and It seems he still fly’s into fits of rage or at least that how he seems to me. He began rating what seemed to me as nonsense and past accusations. I feel his toxicity.
From the last incident, he is now on probation in the State of California, until July 2010, He is to have completed anger management by this date. I have asked him to show me that he has followed any of the court orders. He cannot and will not provide this information, Mind you, I am only inquiring because of the welfare and wellbeing I am protecting all of us he left us a complete disaster last time and I won’t tolerate another rath of Jon.
I want him to be near his children but I see a disregard for the law and since that is a fact therefore it must be that there is no real regard for whatever boundaries I may suggest to impose.
Thinking from a Childs perspective I can see several outcomes. One is where I can feel the happiness of being in my father’s hug, running into his arms, smelling his presence. But if he should trip out on a fellow drivers bad maneuver, spilled milk or sibling rivalry what would the perspective feel like? I feel fear and devastation---
Are there overnight supervised visits available for parents that want to come into town and spend time with their kids? Do I just abandon my house and let him be with the children? Actually I don’t want him near my safe place. This is our Safe Place and I don’t want him near this house. So how can I facilitate the father daughter relationship and take myself out of the picture? After all I must be what he hates...
So dear Public--- I'm Scared, I am afraid that he doesn’t have his marble and sense together.... I am afraid that if I inhibit his rights in any way that I could be accused of withholding the children to hurt him, I am afraid that if I allow the visit and facilitate their relationships that the ability of their father is so far inapt that he will inevitably emotional destroy my precious.
What would you do???? Who do I get for help? Both daughter injured this past weekend, both want to see their dad, He will be here on the 2nd???? HELP.
The ex hasn't made an effort in 5 years to see his daughters. He has barley paid child support. He hasn't been able to maintain steady employment and has got married and divorced in the last two years. Not to mention that he has also created another child in another state which this new mother wants nothing to do with him.....
OK, enough about him. I have been caring for our daughters for the past five years; I have nurtured every tear about their fathers’ absence. I know how badly they want to have their father in their lives.
Over the past two weekends both daughters individually went out on ski trips and injured themselves. The oldest, 13, fractured her spine on two vertebrate. The youngest 11 got a concussion and retrograde amnesia, so naturally the ex wants to see his daughters. Right?
For some reason he expected to stay at my house.... I would foster this idea except the last time he was in our house he became violent and disruptive.
Plus he said he would stay two weeks and under my conditions and he stayed 8 weeks and disregarded every condition I set forth.
He has no job, (neither do I right now) He has no money, He has no real home. I spoke to him over the phone recently on a number of occasions and It seems he still fly’s into fits of rage or at least that how he seems to me. He began rating what seemed to me as nonsense and past accusations. I feel his toxicity.
From the last incident, he is now on probation in the State of California, until July 2010, He is to have completed anger management by this date. I have asked him to show me that he has followed any of the court orders. He cannot and will not provide this information, Mind you, I am only inquiring because of the welfare and wellbeing I am protecting all of us he left us a complete disaster last time and I won’t tolerate another rath of Jon.
I want him to be near his children but I see a disregard for the law and since that is a fact therefore it must be that there is no real regard for whatever boundaries I may suggest to impose.
Thinking from a Childs perspective I can see several outcomes. One is where I can feel the happiness of being in my father’s hug, running into his arms, smelling his presence. But if he should trip out on a fellow drivers bad maneuver, spilled milk or sibling rivalry what would the perspective feel like? I feel fear and devastation---
Are there overnight supervised visits available for parents that want to come into town and spend time with their kids? Do I just abandon my house and let him be with the children? Actually I don’t want him near my safe place. This is our Safe Place and I don’t want him near this house. So how can I facilitate the father daughter relationship and take myself out of the picture? After all I must be what he hates...
So dear Public--- I'm Scared, I am afraid that he doesn’t have his marble and sense together.... I am afraid that if I inhibit his rights in any way that I could be accused of withholding the children to hurt him, I am afraid that if I allow the visit and facilitate their relationships that the ability of their father is so far inapt that he will inevitably emotional destroy my precious.
What would you do???? Who do I get for help? Both daughter injured this past weekend, both want to see their dad, He will be here on the 2nd???? HELP.
Wednesday, February 10, 2010
Through The Eyes Of A Child, Divorce Poems
Through The Eyes Of A Child, Divorce PoemsMy parents got divorced, but why'd I lose my dad?"
Through the Eyes Of A Child
© Brianna K. Slone
When I was only two years old,
My daddy went away.
He swore he'd always love me,
But he said he couldn't stay.
Days turned into weeks
And weeks turned into years.
I never saw my father,
He never saw my tears.
He never read me bedtime stories
Or tucked me in at night.
He never showed up for my birthdays,
But I always hoped he might.
He missed my first day of kindergarten
And all of my school plays.
He doesn't know how smart I am,
My report cards full of A's.
Sometimes I want to call him
To say Hey Dad I'm still alive!
I'll be 16 years old soon,
Will you teach me how to drive?
It’s almost time for college,
The years go by so fast.
I'm looking forward to my future,
But I'm still trapped within my past.
I guess I'll never understand,
Did I do something bad?
My parents got divorced,
But why did I lose my dad?
Through the Eyes Of A Child by Brianna K. Slone @FamilyFriendPoems
Source: Through The Eyes Of A Child, Divorce Poems http://www.familyfriendpoems.com/family/poetry.asp?poem=1542#ixzz0fAcuNNws
Through the Eyes Of A Child
© Brianna K. Slone
When I was only two years old,
My daddy went away.
He swore he'd always love me,
But he said he couldn't stay.
Days turned into weeks
And weeks turned into years.
I never saw my father,
He never saw my tears.
He never read me bedtime stories
Or tucked me in at night.
He never showed up for my birthdays,
But I always hoped he might.
He missed my first day of kindergarten
And all of my school plays.
He doesn't know how smart I am,
My report cards full of A's.
Sometimes I want to call him
To say Hey Dad I'm still alive!
I'll be 16 years old soon,
Will you teach me how to drive?
It’s almost time for college,
The years go by so fast.
I'm looking forward to my future,
But I'm still trapped within my past.
I guess I'll never understand,
Did I do something bad?
My parents got divorced,
But why did I lose my dad?
Through the Eyes Of A Child by Brianna K. Slone @FamilyFriendPoems
Source: Through The Eyes Of A Child, Divorce Poems http://www.familyfriendpoems.com/family/poetry.asp?poem=1542#ixzz0fAcuNNws
Deadbeat Parents Punishment Act
As reported at The Department of Justice
Deadbeat Parents Punishment Act
The problem with enforcement under the CSRA was remedied in 1998 with the passage of the Deadbeat Parents Punishment Act (DPPA) which created two new categories of federal felonies for the most egregious child support violators.
The Law Today
Today, a child support violator can be prosecuted under Federal law if the following facts exists: 1) the violator willfully failed to pay; 2) a known child support obligation; 3) which has a) remained unpaid for longer than a year or is greater than $5,000 (misdemeanor), or has b) remained unpaid for longer than two years or is greater than $10,000 (felony) 4) for a child who resides in another state, or 1) the violator traveled in interstate or foreign commerce; 2) with the intent to evade a support obligation; 3) if such obligation has remained unpaid for a period of one year or longer-or is greater than $5,000 (felony). See 18 U.S.C. §228.
Prosecutorial Considerations
Even if the above facts are present in an individual case, a decision whether or not a federal prosecution will be pursued may also include the following considerations: 1) Whether state civil and criminal remedies reasonable available have first been pursued; 2) Whether the violator has exhibited a pattern of moving from state to state to avoid payment; 3) Whether the violator has actually attempted to conceal his whereabouts or identity including using an alias or false social security number; and 4) Whether the violator has failed to comply with a support order despite previous contempt orders in state court.
For further information, go to http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/cse/fct/cshdbk.htm.
Deadbeat Parents Punishment Act
The problem with enforcement under the CSRA was remedied in 1998 with the passage of the Deadbeat Parents Punishment Act (DPPA) which created two new categories of federal felonies for the most egregious child support violators.
The Law Today
Today, a child support violator can be prosecuted under Federal law if the following facts exists: 1) the violator willfully failed to pay; 2) a known child support obligation; 3) which has a) remained unpaid for longer than a year or is greater than $5,000 (misdemeanor), or has b) remained unpaid for longer than two years or is greater than $10,000 (felony) 4) for a child who resides in another state, or 1) the violator traveled in interstate or foreign commerce; 2) with the intent to evade a support obligation; 3) if such obligation has remained unpaid for a period of one year or longer-or is greater than $5,000 (felony). See 18 U.S.C. §228.
Prosecutorial Considerations
Even if the above facts are present in an individual case, a decision whether or not a federal prosecution will be pursued may also include the following considerations: 1) Whether state civil and criminal remedies reasonable available have first been pursued; 2) Whether the violator has exhibited a pattern of moving from state to state to avoid payment; 3) Whether the violator has actually attempted to conceal his whereabouts or identity including using an alias or false social security number; and 4) Whether the violator has failed to comply with a support order despite previous contempt orders in state court.
For further information, go to http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/cse/fct/cshdbk.htm.
Questions, Through The Eyes Of A 6 Year Old Boy
Poem: A child's innocence is shattered when his daddy leaves.
Questions, Through The Eyes Of A 6 Year Old Boy.
© Adam T. Cumberbatch
Can you tuck me into bed mama?
Don't forget to kiss me goodnight.
Can you tell me a story mama,
Before you turn out the lights?
Can you kiss my forehead mama,
Like you used to do before?
Can you at least tell me you love me mama,
Before you close the bedroom door?
Why don't you wanna talk to me mama?
I miss the sound of your voice.
Mama, can you please say somethin'?
I guess if you don't, it's your choice.
But mama, I have to tell you somethin'...
Even though you're quiet mama,
I know what you're goin' through.
I understand why you cry now mama,
Cause I'm hurtin' too.
Why'd you have to leave us daddy?
I still had some growin' up to do.
Did we somehow make you mad daddy?
Or, were we not good enough for you?
Do you know that mama cries at night daddy?
I think it's cause she sleeps alone.
Daddy, can you please call the house tonight,
Cause mama is waitin' by the phone.
You know mama still loves you daddy?
But I hate you for what you done.
you put tears in mama's eyes, daddy.
And in the eyes of YOUR son.
I thought you said you'd never leave daddy?
You said we'd be pals, you and me.
But, you broke your promise daddy,
Like you broke this family.
Questions, Through The Eyes Of A 6 Year Old Boy. by Adam T. Cumberbatch @FamilyFriendPoems
Source: Questions, Divorce Poems http://www.familyfriendpoems.com/family/poetry.asp?poem=690#ixzz0fAKO2jsc
Questions, Through The Eyes Of A 6 Year Old Boy.
© Adam T. Cumberbatch
Can you tuck me into bed mama?
Don't forget to kiss me goodnight.
Can you tell me a story mama,
Before you turn out the lights?
Can you kiss my forehead mama,
Like you used to do before?
Can you at least tell me you love me mama,
Before you close the bedroom door?
Why don't you wanna talk to me mama?
I miss the sound of your voice.
Mama, can you please say somethin'?
I guess if you don't, it's your choice.
But mama, I have to tell you somethin'...
Even though you're quiet mama,
I know what you're goin' through.
I understand why you cry now mama,
Cause I'm hurtin' too.
Why'd you have to leave us daddy?
I still had some growin' up to do.
Did we somehow make you mad daddy?
Or, were we not good enough for you?
Do you know that mama cries at night daddy?
I think it's cause she sleeps alone.
Daddy, can you please call the house tonight,
Cause mama is waitin' by the phone.
You know mama still loves you daddy?
But I hate you for what you done.
you put tears in mama's eyes, daddy.
And in the eyes of YOUR son.
I thought you said you'd never leave daddy?
You said we'd be pals, you and me.
But, you broke your promise daddy,
Like you broke this family.
Questions, Through The Eyes Of A 6 Year Old Boy. by Adam T. Cumberbatch @FamilyFriendPoems
Source: Questions, Divorce Poems http://www.familyfriendpoems.com/family/poetry.asp?poem=690#ixzz0fAKO2jsc
What Defines Child Neglect?
Whatever Happened to Daddy's Little Girl?: The Impact of Fatherlessness on Black Women
Daddy's Little Girl: Stories of the Special Bond Between Fathers and Daughters
First defining neglect as per federal laws. extends past the obvious abuses, and encompasses how the majority of parents parent.
Federal legislation lays the groundwork for States by identifying a minimum set of acts or behaviors that define child abuse and neglect. The Federal Child Abuse Prevention and Treatment Act (CAPTA), (42 U.S.C.A. §5106g), as amended by the Keeping Children and Families Safe Act of 2003, defines child abuse and neglect as, at minimum:
Any recent act or failure to act on the part of a parent or caretaker which results in death, serious physical or emotional harm, sexual abuse or exploitation; or An act or failure to act which presents an imminent risk of serious harm.
Most Federal and State child protection laws primarily refer to cases of harm to a child caused by parents or other caregivers; they generally do not include harm caused by other people, such as acquaintances or strangers.
The examples provided below are for general informational purposes only. Not all States’ definitions will include all of the examples listed below, and individual States’ definitions may cover additional situations not mentioned here.
Physical abuse is nonaccidental physical injury (ranging from minor bruises to severe fractures or death) as a result of punching, beating, kicking, biting, shaking, throwing, stabbing, choking, hitting (with a hand, stick, strap, or other object), burning, or otherwise harming a child, that is inflicted by a parent, caregiver, or other person who has responsibility for the child.
2 Such injury is considered abuse regardless of whether the caregiver intended to hurt the child. Physical discipline, such as spanking or paddling, is not considered abuse as long as it is reasonable and causes no bodily injury to the child.
Neglect is the failure of a parent, guardian, or other caregiver to provide for a child’s basic needs. Neglect may be:
Physical (e.g., failure to provide necessary food or shelter, or lack of appropriate supervision)
Medical (e.g., failure to provide necessary medical or mental health treatment)3
Educational (e.g., failure to educate a child or attend to special education needs)
Emotional (e.g., inattention to a child’s emotional needs, failure to provide psychological care, or permitting the child to use alcohol or other drugs)
These situations do not always mean a child is neglected. Sometimes cultural values, the standards of care in the community, and poverty may be contributing factors, indicating the family is in need of information or assistance. When a family fails to use information and resources, and the child’s health or safety is at risk, then child welfare intervention may be required. In addition, many States provide an exception to the definition of neglect for parents who choose not to seek medical care for their children due to religious beliefs that may prohibit medical intervention.
4
Sexual abuse includes activities by a parent or caregiver such as fondling a child’s genitals, penetration, incest, rape, sodomy, indecent exposure, and exploitation through prostitution or the production of pornographic materials.
Sexual abuse is defined by CAPTA as "the employment, use, persuasion, inducement, enticement, or coercion of any child to engage in, or assist any other person to engage in, any sexually explicit conduct or simulation of such conduct for the purpose of producing a visual depiction of such conduct; or the rape, and in cases of caretaker or inter-familial relationships, statutory rape, molestation, prostitution, or other form of sexual exploitation of children, or incest with children."
Emotional abuse (or psychological abuse) is a pattern of behavior that impairs a child’s emotional development or sense of self-worth. This may include constant criticism, threats, or rejection, as well as withholding love, support, or guidance. Emotional abuse is often difficult to prove and, therefore, child protective services may not be able to intervene without evidence of harm or mental injury to the child. Emotional abuse is almost always present when other forms are identified.
Abandonment is now defined in many States as a form of neglect. In general, a child is considered to be abandoned when the parent's identity or whereabouts are unknown, the child has been left alone in circumstances where the child suffers serious harm, or the parent has failed to maintain contact with the child or provide reasonable support for a specified period of time.
Substance abuse is an element of the definition of child abuse or neglect in many States.5 Circumstances that are considered abuse or neglect in some States include:
Prenatal exposure of a child to harm due to the mother's use of an illegal drug or other substance
Manufacture of methamphetamine in the presence of a child
Selling, distributing, or giving illegal drugs or alcohol to a child
Use of a controlled substance by a caregiver that impairs the caregiver's ability to adequately care for the child
Resources
Child Maltreatment 2006
This report summarizes child abuse statistics submitted by States to the National Child Abuse and Neglect Data System (NCANDS) during 2006. It includes information about child maltreatment reports, victims, fatalities, perpetrators, services, and additional research.
Daddy's Little Girl: Stories of the Special Bond Between Fathers and DaughtersFirst defining neglect as per federal laws. extends past the obvious abuses, and encompasses how the majority of parents parent. Federal legislation lays the groundwork for States by identifying a minimum set of acts or behaviors that define child abuse and neglect. The Federal Child Abuse Prevention and Treatment Act (CAPTA), (42 U.S.C.A. §5106g), as amended by the Keeping Children and Families Safe Act of 2003, defines child abuse and neglect as, at minimum:
Any recent act or failure to act on the part of a parent or caretaker which results in death, serious physical or emotional harm, sexual abuse or exploitation; or An act or failure to act which presents an imminent risk of serious harm.
Most Federal and State child protection laws primarily refer to cases of harm to a child caused by parents or other caregivers; they generally do not include harm caused by other people, such as acquaintances or strangers.
The examples provided below are for general informational purposes only. Not all States’ definitions will include all of the examples listed below, and individual States’ definitions may cover additional situations not mentioned here.
Physical abuse is nonaccidental physical injury (ranging from minor bruises to severe fractures or death) as a result of punching, beating, kicking, biting, shaking, throwing, stabbing, choking, hitting (with a hand, stick, strap, or other object), burning, or otherwise harming a child, that is inflicted by a parent, caregiver, or other person who has responsibility for the child.
2 Such injury is considered abuse regardless of whether the caregiver intended to hurt the child. Physical discipline, such as spanking or paddling, is not considered abuse as long as it is reasonable and causes no bodily injury to the child.
Neglect is the failure of a parent, guardian, or other caregiver to provide for a child’s basic needs. Neglect may be:
Physical (e.g., failure to provide necessary food or shelter, or lack of appropriate supervision)
Medical (e.g., failure to provide necessary medical or mental health treatment)3
Educational (e.g., failure to educate a child or attend to special education needs)
Emotional (e.g., inattention to a child’s emotional needs, failure to provide psychological care, or permitting the child to use alcohol or other drugs)
These situations do not always mean a child is neglected. Sometimes cultural values, the standards of care in the community, and poverty may be contributing factors, indicating the family is in need of information or assistance. When a family fails to use information and resources, and the child’s health or safety is at risk, then child welfare intervention may be required. In addition, many States provide an exception to the definition of neglect for parents who choose not to seek medical care for their children due to religious beliefs that may prohibit medical intervention.
4
Sexual abuse includes activities by a parent or caregiver such as fondling a child’s genitals, penetration, incest, rape, sodomy, indecent exposure, and exploitation through prostitution or the production of pornographic materials.
Sexual abuse is defined by CAPTA as "the employment, use, persuasion, inducement, enticement, or coercion of any child to engage in, or assist any other person to engage in, any sexually explicit conduct or simulation of such conduct for the purpose of producing a visual depiction of such conduct; or the rape, and in cases of caretaker or inter-familial relationships, statutory rape, molestation, prostitution, or other form of sexual exploitation of children, or incest with children."
Emotional abuse (or psychological abuse) is a pattern of behavior that impairs a child’s emotional development or sense of self-worth. This may include constant criticism, threats, or rejection, as well as withholding love, support, or guidance. Emotional abuse is often difficult to prove and, therefore, child protective services may not be able to intervene without evidence of harm or mental injury to the child. Emotional abuse is almost always present when other forms are identified.
Abandonment is now defined in many States as a form of neglect. In general, a child is considered to be abandoned when the parent's identity or whereabouts are unknown, the child has been left alone in circumstances where the child suffers serious harm, or the parent has failed to maintain contact with the child or provide reasonable support for a specified period of time.
Substance abuse is an element of the definition of child abuse or neglect in many States.5 Circumstances that are considered abuse or neglect in some States include:
Prenatal exposure of a child to harm due to the mother's use of an illegal drug or other substance
Manufacture of methamphetamine in the presence of a child
Selling, distributing, or giving illegal drugs or alcohol to a child
Use of a controlled substance by a caregiver that impairs the caregiver's ability to adequately care for the child
Resources
Child Maltreatment 2006
This report summarizes child abuse statistics submitted by States to the National Child Abuse and Neglect Data System (NCANDS) during 2006. It includes information about child maltreatment reports, victims, fatalities, perpetrators, services, and additional research.
Tuesday, February 9, 2010
So I was browsing websites looking for what a parents resposibility is , as defined by law. Here is an excerpt ... "In addition, parents are expected to support their children according to their ability and station in life; this means that the children should share in both parents’ standard of living. (Family Code § 4053) This responsibility falls on both parents equally and applies to children’s adoptive parents as well. (Family Code § 9305) The failure to provide adequate food, clothing, shelter or parental care and supervision may lead to criminal prosecution for neglect. (Penal Code § 270)..."
I believe, this is the law that governs deadbeat dads. but what is the penalty for neglect?
I believe, this is the law that governs deadbeat dads. but what is the penalty for neglect?
Thursday, February 4, 2010
Mother Abuses Child Blames Husband
Today while watching the Steve Wiko's show I became furious at our society. I feel for the lady screeming on TV and I am horrified that I have any compassion for her.
She became a monster after she got pregnant at 19 by an older guy. He left her to care for the child alone. He didn't contribute to the childs support at all, as I understood it. There is no excuse for hurting a child but I understood this lady, when all her emotions came to surface.
She screamed about how she was left ot provide for this child and it was more than she felt she could handle, with no support, no job, she had gone nuts. She was leaving her child in trash , taping his mouth shut and other horrific things like running off to sell things for scraps to just to survive.
Still I identified, here is why.
Our society has created this circumstance and many others like it! I feel that our society allows men to walk away from thier children but it holds the mothers accountable. how do you feel about this statement?
She became a monster after she got pregnant at 19 by an older guy. He left her to care for the child alone. He didn't contribute to the childs support at all, as I understood it. There is no excuse for hurting a child but I understood this lady, when all her emotions came to surface.
She screamed about how she was left ot provide for this child and it was more than she felt she could handle, with no support, no job, she had gone nuts. She was leaving her child in trash , taping his mouth shut and other horrific things like running off to sell things for scraps to just to survive.
Still I identified, here is why.
Our society has created this circumstance and many others like it! I feel that our society allows men to walk away from thier children but it holds the mothers accountable. how do you feel about this statement?
Tuesday, February 2, 2010
Track Deadbeat parents
How to Track Down a Deadbeat Parent
Contributor
By eHow Contributing Writer
Article Rating: (17 Ratings)
Gather all the information you have and follow every lead you get to track down that deadbeat dad. You can use the Internet, a private investigator or your local child support enforcement agency to find him and collect the money he owes you.
Gather all the information you have, such as his date of birth, Social Security number, a clear photograph, and names of friends, family and employers.
Step 2Keep an accurate record of what he owes you so that if you find him, you're prepared to collect.
Step 3Find out what the procedure is in your state for collecting overdue child support. Schedule a free consultation with an attorney or call the court that originally ordered the support to find out what you need to do.
Step 4Check with the post office and phone company for his forwarding addresses and phone numbers. Follow through on this information.
Step 5Call everyone you can think of who might have an idea of where he is. This includes any professional or union organizations he belongs to. Call his doctor, his dentist, the bar where he hangs out and anyplace else you can think of. Follow any leads you get.
Step 6Contact your local child support enforcement agency for assistance. If you don't know what this agency is called, call the mayor's office, your district's state legislator's office or the county attorney's office and ask them. Share any information you have about his whereabouts with the agency. They may have additional resources available for collecting the support owed.
Step 7Do an online search to locate him or information about him. Many sites will allow you to search a database of information for no cost and offer more detailed searches for a fee. You may be able to find out he has registered a car, applied for a loan or gotten credit in another state or city.
Step 8Consider hiring a private investigator if he's being very elusive. This will cost you money but may have good results. Check your state's laws to see if you can be reimbursed for this expense if he is located.
Step 9Pursue the matter in court. You may be able to get the court to issue a warrant for his arrest or obtain a judgment against him for the amount owed.
Contributor
By eHow Contributing Writer
Article Rating: (17 Ratings)
Gather all the information you have and follow every lead you get to track down that deadbeat dad. You can use the Internet, a private investigator or your local child support enforcement agency to find him and collect the money he owes you.
Gather all the information you have, such as his date of birth, Social Security number, a clear photograph, and names of friends, family and employers.
Step 2Keep an accurate record of what he owes you so that if you find him, you're prepared to collect.
Step 3Find out what the procedure is in your state for collecting overdue child support. Schedule a free consultation with an attorney or call the court that originally ordered the support to find out what you need to do.
Step 4Check with the post office and phone company for his forwarding addresses and phone numbers. Follow through on this information.
Step 5Call everyone you can think of who might have an idea of where he is. This includes any professional or union organizations he belongs to. Call his doctor, his dentist, the bar where he hangs out and anyplace else you can think of. Follow any leads you get.
Step 6Contact your local child support enforcement agency for assistance. If you don't know what this agency is called, call the mayor's office, your district's state legislator's office or the county attorney's office and ask them. Share any information you have about his whereabouts with the agency. They may have additional resources available for collecting the support owed.
Step 7Do an online search to locate him or information about him. Many sites will allow you to search a database of information for no cost and offer more detailed searches for a fee. You may be able to find out he has registered a car, applied for a loan or gotten credit in another state or city.
Step 8Consider hiring a private investigator if he's being very elusive. This will cost you money but may have good results. Check your state's laws to see if you can be reimbursed for this expense if he is located.
Step 9Pursue the matter in court. You may be able to get the court to issue a warrant for his arrest or obtain a judgment against him for the amount owed.
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