Ladies and gentleman, recently I have had the pleasure or curse of experiencing the family court in regards to my second marriage divorce. Did you know children of second marriage are not treated with the same rights of children naturally born. " children not of this marriage" they are deemed children not of this marriage and they are not given any consideration in the eyes of the San Diego Family law. Well going through my divorce for my second marriage no consideration was placed in the fact that I had two children when I entered that marriage. Well I will agree with the majority of people that The Stepfather is not and should not be held financially responsible for his step-children in the regards of a divorce, if there is a natural father in the picture but I did not have this case. My children's father is in jail somewhere in another state for neglecting to pay child support on a number of children and being abusive, he's known as a deadbeat dad has relinquished 100% custody to me and I receive no support I haven't in years. I believe if the stepfather has encouraged the mother not to chase after a deadbeat ex-husband who's a felon and to rely solely on him,the new husband and stepfather for support and fatherly love, that the court should take that into consideration. Currently in our court system at Family Court the magistrate building off 6th Avenue specifically Judge Katz, refuse to hear me make my case , because in the eyes of the Court children from a previous marriage do not have the same rights as children of this marriage. Because of this standard in LAw when husband number two came into the picture and took over Financial and fatherly responsibilities in place of the natural father and then later decided he wanted nothing to do with the children or his new wife . He filed for divorce because he didn't want to be held accountable for his step daughter's college tuition mind you he makes $600,000 a year . I make 12 .The Stepfather encouraged me to be a stay at homemaker, which was listed on all the tax returns written by The Stepfather. ( a certified financial planner ) No consideration was given to the support,housing or other when my children and I were forced to leave a family home , relinquish the family dog and left with one year of minor support to get on my feet with. Mind you" the Brett" or evil redhead encouraged living with him quitting my job and not pursuing a deadbeat ex-husband and once all my eggs were in his basket he changed his tune. Our home was not consider it a family home since evil Brett ,along with myself and kids picked the house ,which he bought 8 months prior to marriage. I gave up everything for a man I believed loved me and I loved him for everything he did at the time looking back I can clearly see I made some huge mistakes . please Family Court and family law change, consider children of a second marriage equal 2 children naturally born to the marriage, if anybody who steps in as a family provider and father or provider to any child in California, they should have the same rights and responsibilities to those children as a natural father. No woman should have to go through seeing her children disappointed twice homeless ,medicaless or foodless because a provider changed his mind. The odd thing is is both my children are a students, not involved in drinking drugs or questionable friends they don't argue with me and they contribute to the household. They wanted their stepfather to love them but could clearly see his shortcomings as he verbalized his despise for them repeatedly behind closed doors yet loudly enough for them to hear. I wish I had protected my children better from this mishap and I wish I had known the the law in that regards so for all you single mothers out there, I want you to Beware of the man who sweeps you off your feet looks your children in the eye and says he'll be there for them places you in a new home buyers you fancy cars and takes you on fancy trips because he's not doing it for you there's a good chance he's doing it to make himself look better and he could care less who he hurts along the way. The divorce was Final July 21st 2016 me and my children are homeless something my attorney said would never happen they said the courts would never allow it yet it has and they did and there was nothing I can do to stop it. I work 3 jobs I never see my children they're raising themselves and they're very discouraged when it comes to men in their lives very sad thing for a mother to know she was responsible for putting her eggs in one basket. Inevitably my children were hurt well Beyond what should be socially acceptable.
I let them down, I believed we could all finally have a family and I believed this man had mine and my children's welfare interest at heart. EVERHART FOR EVERHART HE SAID. HE LIED . OUR FAMILY DIED.
I believe that if family court changed one simple law men would think twice before they marry a woman FATHER BY PROXIE.... More about how I feel on that next blog.
